Korea Adoption on Hold

Well as positive as Dan's medical future is the folks at the adoption agency have to be more careful. They reviewed the letter but unfortunately they cant let us start the process for at least 3-5 years!

The letter you submitted from Dan’s doctor was very helpful. I have consulted with our Ohio Program Administrator, Karen Ristow, as well as the Director of our agency, Lorene Cook. While we are very happy that Dan appears to be doing well, we are unable to proceed with your application at this time. Korea Social Service has a policy about delaying an adoption application for 3-5 years following treatment for a serious illness. I know this must be disappointing for you, but I’m sure that you understand that we must first consider the best interest of the children who we place for adoption. We would not want to have you proceed with a homestudy, only to find out later that you were not able to be approved in Korea . If Dan continues to remain healthy and he progresses as expected for the next few years, please feel free to contact us again to further discuss your plans to adopt.

So for now Korea adoption is off the table (could try another country or domestic, but they all might want to wait). This whole having a baby thing just gets more frustrating every turn it seems. First we cant get pregnant for 2 years, then we finally do and I miscarry, then we decided to start looking into adoption, then Dan gets cancer, then I need surgery for ovarian cysts, then adoption isn't an option for a couple years. And now we move on to in vitro. For those of you who watch Lost on TV, all I have running through my head is "your not meant to raise him" It seems that the island has a plan and no matter what you do it will turn out as intended. So I am not sure what the plan is (not something a goal setter and obsessive planner likes to admit) for my family. Maybe the in vitro will work, I think we have a decent percent chance at it. I preferred the 100% chance with adoption. That was just a waiting game but once you were in you were in. This in vitro experiment seems much more of a roller coaster ride with the added bonus of daily hormone shots to make the ride more fun!

OK, enough rambling from me. Hope everything is going well with everyone. My friend Wade was in a bad car accident a couple days ago, you can read all about it on his blog (link to the side). I am so glad that he is doing better and his upcoming move to Costa Rica sounds absolutely amazing. I wish him the best of luck!